Man Admits to Girlfriend He Cheated After Lover Discovers She’s Pregnant, Leaving Girlfriend at a Loss: ‘I feel sorry for him’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Jul 20, 2024 7:00 PM EDT

Alright, girlies, pick up a pen and write this down: Never ever trust a cheater. 

There might be a small fraction of people who are the exception, but as a rule – People who cheated before can and will do it again if the opportunity presents itself. So no matter how much you loved your partner before, if they were unfaithful to you, they don't deserve a second chance.  Especially if the only reason you found out about the cheating is because his lover is now pregnant with his child and he has no idea what to do. This is not your problem, and you should walk (or run) as far away from him as possible.

That is exactly the advice I would give to the woman who wrote this Reddit story, asking for help with what to do with her cheating boyfriend and his pregnant lover. Scroll down to read the full story and let me know what you think in the comments. After that, click here for a story of a girlfriend who kept rejecting her boyfriend's proposals so she could propose herself.

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  • 01
    My Boyfriend Cheated on Me and the Woman is Pregnant
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    TLDR: I (37F) found out my boyfriend (37M) of 5 years cheated on me, and now the woman is pregnant. What should I do?
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    I'm still in shock and feel like I'm living in a nightmare. A few days ago, my boyfriend sat me down to tell me he cheated on me a few months ago. He claims he met this woman on Tinder
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    several years before we got together but had never met in person. They would chat off and on throughout the years and finally decided to meet up in person. She recently got out of
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    a relationship and was staying in a hotel in our city. She messaged him to see if he wanted to grab a drink with her at the hotel bar, and he decided to go. One thing led to another, and they ended up back in her room to have◆.
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    He said that he instantly regretted it and decided from that moment he was committed to me and wanted to focus on our relationship. He then. proceeded to ghost her. I asked
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    him why he was telling me now, and as it turns out, she is pregnant and she wants to keep it. Now here is where I need advice. I'm obviously heartbroken and feel like something was stolen from me.
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    At the same time, I still love him and I feel sorry for him. He wants nothing to do with this woman or this child. He's not even sure if it is his yet. This woman is now raging because
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    she thought they had a future together. I know the smart thing to do is to remove myself from this mess and never look back. But I'm so confused and going through so many emotions. I
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    thought we were happy and that he was my forever person. It's also scary to think about starting over at my age. I've since kicked him out and he's at his parents, but we will need to
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    talk about our living situation since our lease isn't up for another 8 months. What should I do? How do I process this and make a decision that is best for me? Any advice or similar experiences would be greatly appreciated.
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    spac3ie 1 day ago So he cheats on you, she gets pregnant, and wants to simply forget he did what he did? Walk, and literally don't look back.
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    RabicanShiver · 1 day ago Run. • To do otherwise means at the bare minimum 18 years of child support. At worst they work out a CO parenting plan and she spends all her time trying to win him over.
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    7dipity 1 day ago Seriously!!! She feels bad for him??!?!? He did this to himself! It's called consequences, and it's time for him to face them. Meanwhile op needs to run as fast as she can, jeeze
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    virtualchoirboy · 1 day ago You break up with him, of course. Cheating is a choice. He choose to cheat. He may say "one thing led to another", but that's glossing over the dozens of opportunities he had to say "no".
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    You don't "accidentally" go up to her room. You don't just happen to take your clothes off. One thing does not have to lead to consummating the act.
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    At every step, he could have said no. He chose not to. And now she's pregnant. So what should you do? Easy, tell him to go be the father he needs to be. You will never be able to trust him the same way ever
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    again. You will always remember that he cheated on you. You will already remember that he lied to you about it. That forever tarnishes the relationship. And before you say "but I don't want to throw away 5 years", look
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    up "sunk cost fallacy". Consider that if she keeps the baby, she will ALWAYS be a part of your lives because that child will always be a part of his life and will tie him to her. Forget the last 5 years. Consider what the future from this point forward will be and make your decision based on that.
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    Fragrant-Coffee7335 OP 1 day ago • You're absolutely right. I honestly never thought I would be someone to consider staying with a person that would do this. I've lurked on Reddit for many years and couldn't believe
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    people asking the same questions I'm now asking. It's different when you are the one going through it. But I appreciate your response and these are the things I need to hear to continue moving forward with my life.
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    here4mysteries - 1 day ago So he secretly kept in touch with a Tinder match he had never met throughout your 5 year relationship? It was appropriate and platonic chatting only? But secret.
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    This woman who met your boyfriend ONE time thought they had a future together based on friendly, appropriate (secret) texting? I'm sorry but I think someone is not being truthful. I'm really sorry honey. You need to consider moving on.
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    AndrewAwakened · 1 day ago You hit the nail on the head - seems clear that the bf told OP the most sanitized version he could get away with to maximize his chances of OP not breaking up with him.
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    Fragrant-Coffee7335 OP 1 day ago These are the things that I've asked him. He claimed they just had surface level conversations. But you're right. It was obviously more than that. Even if it was strictly platonic, he still kept talking to this woman from me. I appreciate you telling me what I need to hear.
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    • TheBeagle Man · 1 day ago He had no problem cheating on you until there were consequences. He'll do it again. And now he's shown himself to happily ghost someone he knocked up to avoid responsibility. Why wouldn't he do the same to you?
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